I’ve found reference again to how post menopause women are not attractive (since they are not fertile) and therefore at risk of their husbands running off with younger more beautiful women!!!!!!! I’ll not dignify the blog/post with a link.
This is an urban myth propagated by younger people who understandably do not find mature women attractive. People should be careful about accepting and propagating negative stereotypes. This particular one is untrue and very hurtful.
I’ve met a good many mature men looking for affairs and divorced men looking for a second wife. None of them have said – “oh dear me, my wife is old and fat and thus unattractive and therefore I feel compelled to seek a younger and therefore more attractive option”. I mentioned the issue to Neville who is interviewing ladies re partnership and he was indignant and amazed that anyone could say older women are not attractive.
It is true however that middle aged men re-evaluate their lives (just as do women) and thus might choose to move on from a long term relationship – either in entirety or just sexually.
The reasons I’ve been told by men for moving on sexually include:
· Wife does not want to have sex with me or wife does not want to have enough sex with me.
· Wife does not like me and does not have sex with me.
· We are not compatible and I am looking for more than just boring sex.
· Wife is not affectionate.
· Wife is boring in bed and generally boring.
· Wife is a cranky harpy.
· Wife is lazy and boring with poor grooming and presentation.
· I (or wife) want to divorce.
There are also those sad cases where illness and disability cut short intimacy between a couple.
Married men seem totally willing to overlook figure flaws and the effects of aging and take into account shared history, excellent mothering and housekeeping skills, diligence and self development, efforts at presentation and grooming and sexual compatibility and sexual participation. I suspect men still see the young girl they married when they look at their wife. It does not seem hard to keep a husband faithful though middle age and beyond.
I’ve also found unmarried men seeking a new wife and men seeking affairs quite willing to consider a woman their own age or in some cases older if desired sexual and other compatibility factors are present. It seems chemistry, connection and compatibility are much more important than being ‘young and fertile’. Indeed, Neville thinks lack of fertility is a definite advantage!
My motto is “not older, better”! Please remember this and avoid being needlessly hurtful by propagating unfounded urban myths.
Thank you! :-) C
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